Classifieds Business Directory Jobs Real Estate Autos Legal Notices Forums Subscribe Archives
Today is August 20, 2014
home news sports feature opinionhappenings society obits techtips

Front Page » October 22, 2002 » Opinion » Taking Responsibility
Published 4,320 days ago

Taking Responsibility


Print PageEmail PageShareGet Reprints

By PAULA WELLNITZ


I have been reading one of the pop psychology books prevalent today. This one would explain a lot of a woman's problems on the way she is trained to be, and continues to want to be, dependent. She may expect that her husband will be the decision maker, the disciplinarian of the family. She may expect that he will fulfill her emotionally, keep her secure financially.

All the while I am reading, my mind is saying, "Yes, but...". The "but" is for the many men I find who have grown up being dependent and who still do not want to take responsibility after they are married. There are a variety of ways this is lived out.

As I have observed it, many parents have trained both their girls and their boys to be dependent. The male side, not given in the aforementioned book's analysis, is that, the married man often does not contribute of his person to his newly forming family. He may expect his wife to take all responsibility for his needs, home and family. He may work at a good job but want his wife to take care of family finances. Then he may insist that he have what he wants, to buy�even if they will not have the money to pay for family needs.

Wanting to be seen as head of the family, the man who rejects responsibility may refuse in any way to do anything for or with the children. He will see himself as the supreme lawgiver and decision maker and depend on his wife to carry it out. Rules and decisions may be very capricious. Or, he may play with the children and give in to whatever they want in order to assure himself of their affection.

Both men and women then, need to look at themselves and see how they can act interdependently and take responsibility. They need to see how they can share this in a marriage and family so that neither is over-expecting care from the other. Rather each gives to and receives from the other.


Print PageEmail PageShareGet Reprints


Top of Page


 
Web Poll  
April 25, 2011
Do you you think the national deficit that Congress has been struggling with can be better solved by increasing taxes or by cutting spending?
Increasing taxes
(41.83%)
Cutting spending
(38.85%)
Combination of both
(17.28%)
Don't know or don't care
(2.04%)
2350 total votes

Opinion  
October 22, 2002
Recent Opinion
Quick Links
Subscribe via RSS
Related Articles  
Related Stories



Best viewed with Firefox
Get Firefox

© Emery County Progress, 2000-2008. All rights reserved. All material found on this website, unless otherwise specified, is copyright and may not be reproduced without the explicit written permission from the publisher of the Emery County Progress.
Legal Notices & Terms of Use    Privacy Policy    Advertising Info    FAQ    Contact Us
  RSS Feeds    News on Your Site    Staff Information    Submitting Content    About Us
z